Green Room - Week 36 - Day 6
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therealljidolYou suck.
No, really, you do.
I know that it’s true, because I’ve read it from a reliable source: You!
I understand humility. I appreciate and value it. I do think that the person who ends up winning should have the ability to be humble. There’s nothing attractive about arrogance.
Confidence? Sure. Arrogance? No.
But there’s nothing attractive about self-deprecation either.
It’s insulting to the over 300 contestants you have fallen before you, many of them who would love to have a spot in the Top 7!
That also goes for anyone who would try to make someone feel bad about themselves because they made it to this point, and someone else didn’t.
Guess what? You can talk all you want – the bottom line is (insert name here) didn’t make it here and (insert other name here) did. That’s something to be celebrated.
I actually haven’t, personally, heard any of the latter example. Which is why there are still people breathing. Because if I did I would be shoving my foot so far up their deluded mouths that it would come out the end that things like that deserve to be coming out of…
But the former? The self-deprecation? I’ve been hearing far too much, from far too many corners.
I’ve also seen a few “well-meaning” folks encouraging it, and even trying to get people to knock themselves out of the running “for their own good”. I understand, it’s difficult to see someone else succeed. But that doesn’t mean you need to set them up to fail.
There’s a difference between setting realistic expectations and the ability to simply visualize something good happening.
I’m not saying that anyone should get focused on being THE WINNER. There are still six more contestants to get through after all! ;) And all of them are potentially worthy of that spot.
There is also a lot more to write: http://therealljidol.livejournal.com/593207.html
(and work out: http://therealljidol.livejournal.com/591795.html and when you are done with that, there’s always plenty of Home Game to go around: http://therealljidol.livejournal.com/592005.html
If you do too much of that, you’re setting yourself up for a fall when you don’t achieve it. Because, there is a good chance that you won’t.
I’m simply saying, believe in yourself and that you could potentially win. Believe in each other – that they could potentially win.
If you do that, regardless of the vote totals- you have already won.
No, really, you do.
I know that it’s true, because I’ve read it from a reliable source: You!
I understand humility. I appreciate and value it. I do think that the person who ends up winning should have the ability to be humble. There’s nothing attractive about arrogance.
Confidence? Sure. Arrogance? No.
But there’s nothing attractive about self-deprecation either.
It’s insulting to the over 300 contestants you have fallen before you, many of them who would love to have a spot in the Top 7!
That also goes for anyone who would try to make someone feel bad about themselves because they made it to this point, and someone else didn’t.
Guess what? You can talk all you want – the bottom line is (insert name here) didn’t make it here and (insert other name here) did. That’s something to be celebrated.
I actually haven’t, personally, heard any of the latter example. Which is why there are still people breathing. Because if I did I would be shoving my foot so far up their deluded mouths that it would come out the end that things like that deserve to be coming out of…
But the former? The self-deprecation? I’ve been hearing far too much, from far too many corners.
I’ve also seen a few “well-meaning” folks encouraging it, and even trying to get people to knock themselves out of the running “for their own good”. I understand, it’s difficult to see someone else succeed. But that doesn’t mean you need to set them up to fail.
There’s a difference between setting realistic expectations and the ability to simply visualize something good happening.
I’m not saying that anyone should get focused on being THE WINNER. There are still six more contestants to get through after all! ;) And all of them are potentially worthy of that spot.
There is also a lot more to write: http://therealljidol.livejournal.com/593207.html
(and work out: http://therealljidol.livejournal.com/591795.html and when you are done with that, there’s always plenty of Home Game to go around: http://therealljidol.livejournal.com/592005.html
If you do too much of that, you’re setting yourself up for a fall when you don’t achieve it. Because, there is a good chance that you won’t.
I’m simply saying, believe in yourself and that you could potentially win. Believe in each other – that they could potentially win.
If you do that, regardless of the vote totals- you have already won.
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Date: 2012-08-01 01:52 pm (UTC)ALSO, FRIST! HAHAHAHAHA
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Date: 2012-08-01 01:59 pm (UTC)Oh wait you were talking about writing.
Well I admit that I suck at that too.
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Date: 2012-08-01 02:01 pm (UTC)But hey, I've always wanted to make it to Hell Week, so while tough and stressful, I am proud to be here and know that being here is a privilege. And no one is forcing me to stay.... I could drop, sure, but I won't. Not that I'm really thinking about the winning spot (there are 6 others that I agree about deserving it), but I will aim to keep going for as long as I can. I forgot where I was going with this; my brain is tired.
But I have rough drafts of 4 of the 5 completely done, which surprises the heck out of me. I finished three last night. They're very rough, but that's what tonight is for. That and finishing the last one up, which I at least have an idea for now. Now if only today at work wasn't busy so I could write there... Though I know it won't be. Ugh.
But I'll get it all done somehow.
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Date: 2012-08-01 02:02 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2012-08-01 02:10 pm (UTC)(and I don't think I suck either, just because I'm not there, for the record, lol)
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Date: 2012-08-01 02:18 pm (UTC)help yourself to a cookie.
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Date: 2012-08-01 02:19 pm (UTC)It’s insulting to the over 300 contestants you have fallen before you, many of them who would love to have a spot in the Top 7!
Word!
Because if I did I would be shoving my foot so far up their deluded mouths
Dude! Have some chamomile.
I’ve also seen a few “well-meaning” folks encouraging it, and even trying to get people to knock themselves out of the running “for their own good”.
wtf... do the same people also profess they aren't into the strategy aspect of the game at all?
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Date: 2012-08-01 02:24 pm (UTC)I'm not going to say it.
Date: 2012-08-01 02:27 pm (UTC)I'm not blaming Gary for my reaction. This is entirely my issue, and I'm honestly trying not to be a killjoy.
So: As tempted as I am, I am *NOT* going to "say" what I am thinking… and I am working very hard at proving that my thoughts are wrong.
PS: All the best to the Top 7.
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Date: 2012-08-01 02:31 pm (UTC)On the one hand I think it's part human nature in that one tends to play down one's talent(s) (or whatever) in the name of not wanting to stick out. Because if you sick out, one is more liable to be cut down (aka the "tall poppy" syndrome).
On the other hand, continually talking about one's self deprecation tends to make one stick out. Maybe it's intentional, maybe it isn't, but sometimes I want to reach into the computer and gently shake people into realizing that there's a reason you got to [whatever], so STOP IT! Please believe in yourself because obviously others believe in you! I know it can be difficult to do so, but only you can find that place within yourself that will tell you that, yes, you deserve to be where you are!
FWIW I have the same reaction IRL.
Anyway....
Good Morning GR!
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Date: 2012-08-01 02:31 pm (UTC)Re: I'm not going to say it.
Date: 2012-08-01 02:34 pm (UTC)HE MEANS ME. PEOPLE WONDER WHY I'M STILL IN THE GAME.
Of course the second thing I thought was this:
TOO BAD BECAUSE I AM STILL IN ANYWAY HAHAHAHAHAHA.
So yeah, maybe I'm getting better. :D
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Date: 2012-08-01 02:43 pm (UTC)I'm trying to keep from acting on the impulse to put myself down, but that's HARD. :/ I am working on it, though.
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Date: 2012-08-01 02:51 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2012-08-01 03:05 pm (UTC)If it only worked that way, life would be a heck of a lot easier. But that's just not the way it works.
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Date: 2012-08-01 03:12 pm (UTC)I've been living with a brain that has been mean to me for 29 years. I see things differently. Someone telling me I'm wrong about how I feel, and insisting that I suddenly feel good about myself has the opposite effect. Mithras fights back. It makes excuses. It sees things others are willing to overlook when they're looking at me.
It's not a switch that can be shut off whenever someone tells me otherwise. My opinion of myself matters most of all, and until I can change that... Yeah, your opinion will be great and awesome and make me feel good for a minute, but it doesn't suddenly switch my brain into liking myself.
That part? That has to come from within. And if you think that's easy.. Well it's not. I've been in therapy for a year now and while I'm getting better, I still have a long way to go before I like myself.
That being said, I do feel it's awesome to be in the Top 7 and I do think I deserve to be here because I've seen the support come from all over and I've only recently had to start promoting myself. That makes me feel good and I'd never say "I don't deserve to be here" because that's a lie. I'm here. I deserve it. I'll own it.
See? Getting better :)
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Date: 2012-08-01 03:16 pm (UTC)Thanks!
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Date: 2012-08-01 03:32 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2012-08-01 03:36 pm (UTC)We haven't had a fun controversy in ages.
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Date: 2012-08-01 03:45 pm (UTC);)
That part? That has to come fro within. And if you think that's easy.. Well it's not.
:nodding: I still have my moments, but it's taken me a very long time to realize that it's OK to pat myself on the back and that I don't need to second guess myself every single time I put "whatever" out there ("whatever being from an Idol entry to something at work to...well, whatever). I'd be lying if I said therapy didn't help because it certainly did, but it wasn't the only ingredient.
:trying to think of a way to word this:
I think there comes a point in everyone's life when the self-deprecation switch either turns off or you learn to modulate it like a dimmer switch. Maybe age has something to do with it, maybe reaching the point where you're comfortable in your own skin -- that's the part I'm having trouble wording because I'm not sure when it happens because it has to be different for everybody. For instance, it's only in the last few years I've felt like I'm truly hitting my stride in many areas. Sure, I'm better at some things than I am at others, but for some reason I don't let the latter affect me as much as I would have let it years ago. I can't tell you why this is. I can only tell you how freeing it feels, though, not to be so caught up in self-examination, self-deprecating mode. I don't obsess about it very much. Whatever will be, wlll be. Now maybe that's a bit of self-deprecation for all I know!
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Date: 2012-08-01 03:49 pm (UTC)*insert drama here* :)
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Date: 2012-08-01 03:56 pm (UTC)That's the best drama you got?
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Date: 2012-08-01 04:03 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2012-08-01 04:03 pm (UTC)Re: Once more, with feeling
Date: 2012-08-01 04:04 pm (UTC)